Archive for August, 2015

Hard Work Does Not Always Pay Off – Yes or No?

By on August 10, 2015 in All 2017

When you throw yourself at your job day in and out – you’d expect some recognition, yes or no? Surely you would. Unfortunately, the reality of the working world is very different.

So here’s a reality check.

1. Managers often reward the people they like more often than the people who perform. They are human after all. Many managers will look for reasons to justify a good performance rating for a direct report they like, instead of ranking performance objectively. You really cannot do much about this, because these discussions usually take place behind closed doors.

2. Your manager’s definition of “good performance” may be very different from yours. He or she may simply want someone who keeps his mouth shut and does his basic work. Your boss may not appreciate the continuous improvement programs you like to initiate – even if these are clearly good for the business. Your risk taking affects your boss, who may be risk averse. Although they may take some leadership credit for a job well done, they will still fear the backlash if the job is not well done. They will remember this fear even if the project was successful.

3. Many managers do not appreciate people who are smarter than them. They may also hold a strong disillusion of their own abilities in the first place. Both these scenarios don’t well for you, yes or no?

4. HR may not think you are ready for a promotion even though they know nothing about you at all. This happens a lot in organisations that try too hard to create a damn matrix of measurement for everything even something as unique as promotion readiness for roles. HR then starts waving a magical wand that blesses and curses on many factors, with actual work performance being one consideration alongside many other mundane ones.

5. Your skill set may not suit the future plans for the company. You may be a beast with Excel, but perhaps the company wants to move transaction capture into SAP.

6. Maybe you could have “played the game” better, yes ? Your Excel skills may have given the company amazing dashboards, data analysis capabilities and macros operating like they run on AI, but perhaps the company thinks Jane from accounts is more deserving, because she didn’t know enough Excel to automate her tasks, resulting in her spending way too much time in the office after hours. The management saw the hours she put in and got impressed with no idea of the incompetence inherent in her nature. In the end both jobs got done, hers and yours. Only difference being she had to work crazy impressive hours and you did it the smart way and Jane got rewarded for it.job funny fired joke

Children Are Great- Yes Or No?

By on August 10, 2015 in All 2017

Before you decide to have children, you better be aware that your life will change if you do. Maybe for the better in some ways, but definitely for the worse in many ways. Ask the parents around you and they will agree with you – yes or no? As a matter of fact, why not ask your own parents for a start?

For a start, your standard of what is “acceptable hygiene” will change. A long time ago, you may have never gone to bed on a bed drenched in urine. After having kids, you will learn that there are many work arounds to this. For example – sleeping on the non drenched side, placing a water proof mat over the drenched side or if you are tired enough – just ignoring it and going to sleep wherever on whichever side. These are all viable options – yes or no? You say no? Well that means you have not had kids yet. How about getting up close and personal with your baby’s poop several times a day? Does that does that sound fun for you? If it does, then after you see a shrink – then you can make a decision on whether you should have kids or not.

Secondly, you will learn to cherish “me time” – if you get any of it that is. Here too, you will learn work arounds. You will soon realise that the easiest way to get extended “me time” is to extend the time you spend in the bathroom by an extra 30 mins everyday, perhaps even an hour. In many cases, the bathroom is the final frontier, simply because that is the only place in the house where a parent can lock himself or herself up safely away from the children.

Thirdly, you can forget about sleeping in late. You may recall that you loved to sleep in late as a child. Rest assured; your memory is deceiving you. You trust me when I say that yes? Think hard, and you will realise that the desire to sleep in late only appears later in your childhood. In the first few years of a child’s life they tend to wake up early. As early as possible in fact, so that they can start their day of play.

Lastly, discipline is a word that children do not understand. That means you get to stand and watch helplessly as they scream they heads off in shopping malls, or sit and drive helplessly as they scream their heads off in the car, or lie down and pretend to sleep as they scream their heads off before falling asleep. Oh you think I am being over dramatic don’t you?

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When marry into the family, you got to get along with irritating aunts – yes or no?

By on August 10, 2015 in All 2017

When you marry a better half who comes from a huge extended family, you better be ready to deal with the the stable of relatives who seem to always be around. The things you need to deal with can range from the mundane to the extreme; from aunts who like to spam group chats with meaningless “feel good” memes to uncles that seem to have taken it upon themselves to constantly advise on how to raise your children. Unfortunately, you don’t really have a choice but to be patient – yes or not? Of course you could go all wolverine rampage on them all but that would not bode well for your relationship with your loved one would it? Probably not.

So how do you deal with these annoying aunts and uncles you suddenly feel like you adopted?

  1. Respect and patience. This mean putting up with all the jam with the smile. Wear it out. Family functions don’t last for that long do they? Of course if you choose to go on holiday with the group then you can only blame yourself for digging your own damn grave.
  2. Decline invitations to limit your exposure to the most annoying individuals in the group. Familiarity breeds contempt. So don’t get too familiar. Try to get an overseas job posting if possible. That would solve a whole lot of problems. If you don’t bring your husband of your wife, you won’t have to deal with your spouse either.
  3. Get wasted. All the time. Throw up in their homes. Throw up at the entrance to their homes. Pass out in their cars. Soon enough, they will stop inviting you anywhere. But if they do. Then they are aunts and uncles worth putting up with. Keep them close and take care of them. For they probably love you more than your parents do.
  4. Always wear a serious and worried look on your face so that people leave you alone. But beware, there are some fo*ls out there that will still feel like taking liberties with you – teasing you like a child or making jokes at your expense – trying to get you involved in all the lovey dovey family activities. Here you don’t have a choice – refer to point 3.
  5. Be nice for as long as you can. Then have a friend call you with an “emergency” that you urgently need to help out with. This may only work so many times (likely just once) so I would keep this little jewel for some major event if I were you.
  6. Borrow some cash from one of those annoying relatives , then never return it. When in the presence of that relative, talk about how you never borrow any money from anyone. Keep doing it. Eventually that relative will start to tell the others. Eventually one of them will tell you. Then deny everything and insist that the annoying relative is trying to frame you. This will split the family – if you are lucky maybe even in half – significantly reducing the number of annoyances you have to deal with. Unless of course all the annoying relatives end up on your side. In this case you probably should try your best to get along with them anyway.
  7. At the end of the day – you may want to reconsider point 1. If these people genuinely love you – then putting up with their annoyances might just be worth it – yes or no? I mean as long as they do nothing destructive or life threatening to you – sometimes it actually is nice to be surrounded by people who care for you – even if they annoy the life out of you while doing it.



How to Decide Which Business to Start

By on August 2, 2015 in All 2017

Budding entrepreneurs are always on the lookout for the next thing when it comes to business opportunities. It’s either they set up a new business, purchase a franchise or become a distributor. (Most people however,  think about it,  talk about and dream about it but do nothing actually concrete about it at all.). Anyway,  I digress – Whatever path they take they don’t just make a random decision. Successful entrepreneurs actually take the time to understand the market and weigh the pros and cons of their decision before taking the plunge.

How Entrepreneurs Make Decisions Before Starting a Business

Entrepreneurs actually take several steps before they make a decision to ensure that they made the right choice.

Here are the steps they usually take when choosing a business.

First, jot down all the skills that you have acquired over the years, where you’ve used them, and what the results were. Study your list and choose the best two that you are good at and look up businesses that fit these skills.

Second, consider your hobbies and interests. Making a random decision when it comes to choosing a business may suit you at the beginning but once you’ve set up shop and realized that your interests lie elsewhere, you’ll be losing a lot of money not to mention time as well. Obviously, working to grow your business becomes a pain when you don’t quite like what you are doing. Knowing what your interests are and whether they are applicable to your skills is important when you make decision. However, if you are simply entrepreneurial by nature – the challenge of setting a business up and growing it may be reason enough. It really does depend on you.

Third, start a business that is related to your interests and your skills. When learning how to decide which business is appropriate for you, taking your skills and interests into consideration is a must.

Fourth, conduct research on whether the business you have in mind is in demand and who your potential targets will be. How to decide whether to push through or not? Ask those who are already in the industry to give you insights about the business industry that you want to belong to.

Fifth, take advantage of the internet to conduct research on your niche, which shops are already on top of their game, and what other options you can provide so others will patronize your business.

Sixth, before you make decision on whether to pursue the business you have in mind, send feelers in forums first. Ask questions, gain feedback, and from there analyze the data so you won’t be forced to make random decision with regards to your business.

These are just a few steps on how to decide what business to go for if you want to become your own boss. Pretty high level. I admit. But we followed these steps (at least in theory and spirit) when we set up this site.  Research. Research. Research. Since any business venture would require some investment of both time and money – it will not be easy to make a decision especially but by applying these steps, you won’t have to make uninformed decisions with regards to your business project – greatly reducing the possibility of failure and increasing the chance for long term success.

Keys to an Effective Decision Making

By on August 2, 2015 in All 2017

Keys to an Effective Decision Making

Making an effective decision is not as easy as it sounds. And it is not something we can close our eyes either. In fact, decision making is required in everything that we do on a daily basis. There may be others who evade making decisions by turning to someone trusted for information and recommendations. Some even resort to taking votes or tossing a coin and are contented with that random decision.

What is decision making? Simply put, decision making is the process or action of choosing from two or more probable courses of action. However, you have to understand that no matter how much effort you put into it, the decision you make may not always be the best choice. In reality,  it is inevitable that even the best choices were not even considered, because they were not apparent at that time. Because of this, it is necessary to keep a record of all the decisions we make to be able to help us deal with the same circumstances in the future. While it may not correct the mistakes we’ve done in the past, by doing this, we can improve our choices leading to better and more desirable results in the future.

Knowing the proper way to go about making decisions is necessary for our daily activities, regardless of the level of importance of each decision, still we have to know the keys to a good and effective decision making.

The Keys of a Good Decision Making

Firstly, you have to identify or be familiar with the facts surrounding the decision you have to make and be aware of its outcome or consequence. You also have to know your own objectives to consider on how to decide.

Collect all the necessary and helpful facts and information you need in order to achieve the best possible to solution you are trying to obtain.

Engage in deliberate thinking and providing yourself with as many suitable options as possible. This is essential. Evaluate the options using the information you have gathered.

Weigh the possible results and the likely consequences. Ask yourself the worst possible outcomes if you choose any of the options and whether you would be able or not to live with the consequences.

Making a list of the advantages and disadvantages can also be very helpful. Compare each list. Sort out your priorities to determine the most suitable course of action to carry out. A SWOT analysis may be useful.

Turn to the persons you know who can help you evaluate the choices you have made. Make sure they are the ones you can trust and who have ideally already dealt with a similar situation in the past. You’ll be surprised to know that there might be something you forgot to consider.

And finally, you can now make your decision. Evaluate results and monitor the consequences that follow. You need to desire if you have obtained your desired outcome.

Now you have learned the secrets to on how to decide soundly and effectively. Once you become familiar with these steps, you’re not that far from living your life productively and with satisfaction.

How to Decide on the Right College Course

By on August 2, 2015 in All 2017

How to Decide on the Right College Course

If you are nearing your high school graduation or if you have been working for a while and you wish to enroll into college, you have to make the painstaking job of weighing in all the pros and cons of all the programs offered by the universities and colleges that you know. For sure, you already know that entering college to read any course should not be made as a random decision. But most students do make random decisions, simply taking whichever course they happen to feel an immediate inclination for at the moment or time of submitting the application. This is very strange behaviour, since this because this decision in your life concerning your education will have a big impact on how you will earn a living in the future, as well as how you will live the years in the rest of your life.

To make a decision about which school and course to choose is a fairly challenging task, especially since there are a lot of institutions out there that can offer you programs that are said to be ‘in demand’ in the job market. However, you have a to invest just a lot of your time and effort in contemplating and reflecting on what you really want to become after graduation. Doing so will ensure you to have a very enjoyable ride along the whole college journey, and more importantly increase the chances for you to have a job that you will definitely enjoy after graduation, yes or no?

What course should you take?

You can start to make a decision by knowing yourself first. You have to be acquainted with your very own passions, preferences and peeves in order for you to narrow down the best college programs and future careers that best suit your interests. This is much easier said, than it is done. Some people spend years in remote Himalayan caves simply trying to get to know themselves. You are going to college, you don’t have time to spend in a cave, yes? Nonetheless, you can try thinking about the past years and remember what activities you really enjoyed doing the most. By listing these down, you can define the common thing that makes these activities appealing to you and compare it against some careers to see if they fit together. You can go back to as far as your days in elementary or in the recent years in your high school. You just have to find out what things really make you happy. For example, if you enjoyed, like really really enjoyed playing “police and thief” it may actually make sense to pursue a career in the police force probably not a career as a thief).

One of the ways you can decide on the right degree to work on is to consider the external factors that could affect your time during your college education and after graduation. Try to determine if the area you wish to work at is in demand of a certain job and see if it fits the type of courses you want to enroll in. For example, be wary that these things change over time. Several college degrees in specific areas of computing have been rendered completely obsolete due to advances in microship design. You also have to take into consideration that some other things such as finances, logistics and the level of support that you will get from your significant others. However, these should not be the primary basis of your choice since it is you who will be making the most out of your college degree after all.

Tips on How to Decide Correctly

By on August 2, 2015 in All 2017

Nearly everyone I’ve met has experienced making decisions that they regret later on life.  Some may say that they haven’t made a decision that they’ve regretted. It’s either they are lying, or they haven’t actually done any decision making in their life. Both these kinds of people need tips on how to decide correctly. Let’s be clear here, by “correctly” I mean making the most informed decision based on the information available at the time. For all your preparation, you may still get blind sided by some aspect of the problem you never thought about. Most folks employ random decision making techniques rather than actually putting their mental faculties to work thus they often regret the path they chose. It is precisely for people like that, that we have built this site and the app running on the front page.

Anyway, Would you believe that knowing how to decide correctly is actually an acquired skill?

Tips on How to Decide the Right Way

People make decisions all the time. From the moment they wake up, they’re already making decisions as to what eat, whether to take a shower or bath, ride a taxi or bus to work, and so on and so forth. In the work place, you need to make decisions on the project that you are working on (or supposed to be working on) and a thousand other situations. The question now is how to decide appropriately?

Before we go on, I would like to point out that even if you are making a random decision, you are still employing certain factors in your decision-making process to arrive at your choice. For those who want to decide correctly, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

Firstly, assess the situation. Ask yourself what is there to decide, what will happen if you don’t decide, what will the pros and cons are when you decide and so on. Second, think of how others will respond to your decision. When you make a decision will it please those you work with or will it generate a big issue? Have you even asked for insight before you tried to make a decision? We could talk about this all day. The fact (according to me) is that many bad decision are made because these decisions were made on the basis of poor information – leading to many “what the hell was I thinking !?” moments. While such moments can add great drama and excitement – they do not always end well. If you lived to talk about, might be great to also spend some time thinking about what went wrong and why.

Secondly, you should conduct a benefit or cost analysis regarding your decision. Will the benefits to be reaped be appropriate to the cost of executing your decision? What will you do if the cost exceeds that of the proposed budget with the results falling short of the expected amount? You need to factor these things when learning how to decide to come up with a better decision. This basically means have a Plan B. For really critical projects you probably should have a Plan C as well. No surprises. At least none that you could foresee. You can’t control everything for sure, but there is actually a lot more you can control that you realise, if you just think about it in the first place.

Thirdly, random decision making may be all well and good but unless you assess the risk factors, you will probably be more inclined to think things through as you want to reduce the risk you exposure yourself to. Before you make a decision, you should at least weigh whether your choice is based on your beliefs or what others want. Following what others are thinking may be more logical but are you comfortable with their decision? If you are more comfortable with your own decisions, then make the right choice and follow what your gut says even if it doesn’t receive accolades from your colleagues. It has been scientifically proven that herd mentality or swarm intelligence is high on risk to the individual making up a part of the gathering, yet swarm mentality is also change averse. This is because, swarm intelligence is designed to maximise the survival of the entire swarm with little regards to the survival of each individual citizen. This means that if 10 locusts have to die to protect the swarm, the swarm will readily give them up and not bother to look for a work around solution. Humans are the same – the only difference being if you are making a decision that affects you – then the only one set to lose anything is you, despite the opinion of the herd.

And finally, you should make decisions once you’ve applied the steps mentioned above. Even if you have limited information on hand, you should make do with what you have to arrive at the best decision there is.